What Is Love?

Day 10-Domestic Violence Awareness Month #pray4dvfreedom

Love is a treasure.

I’ve been studying how the Bible describes love for almost a year. I’ve been renewing my mind of truth and of what love actually is.

The first place I went in my search was to the well known love chapter in 1 Corinthians 13:4-8, “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth….

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How Does Abuse Start?

Day 9-Domestic Violence Awareness Month #pray4dvfreedom

“I love you.”

Three powerful words.

Especially when they come from someone you’re dating. Those words are special and hold a beautiful promise. But what if, the individual you’re dating, says those three words while making you feel unsure of yourself? What if you find that you’re second guessing yourself?

The more you try to explain how you’re feeling to your significant other the less you feel understood. And the more muddy things appear to you.

Somehow, each conversation always ends up with your significant other’s feelings being hurt.

As you’re apologizing, again, you’re wondering how did this happen?…

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Have You Ever Given Marriage Advice?

Day 6-Domestic Violence Awareness Month #pray4dvfreedom

Have you ever given advice to a couple struggling in their marriage? Did it seem to make things worse instead of better?

Often church leaders attempt to help marriages in trouble by giving advice or offering some free “counseling”.

However, what the church leaders and Christians don’t realize is that their involvement increases the shame that victims live with, enables the abuser to continue violence behind closed doors and endanger lives.

If there is even a hint of abuse, affair or addiction please, please refer the couple to individual professional counseling.

It is critically important.

You can help save a life.





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Are You Being Used To Aid Abuse?

Day 5-Domestic Violence Awareness Month #pray4dvfreedom


When I am judged for being abused, I feel less human and I don’t want to listen to what you have to tell me.

When abused, I lived in shame. It’s a lifestyle. And how abuse continues to happen.

When I was coming out of the abusive relationship, I had spiritual authority figures tell me what to do and what decisions I should make. This only increased the shame that I lived with.

The worst part is, I believe these well-meaning Christians have no idea that they were more harmful to me than helpful. Or that they…

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Take The Secret Out

Day 4-Domestic Violence Awareness Month #pray4dvfreedom

My hope in talking and writing about abuse is to bring what happened in the safety of secrecy out into the light.

If we remove the secret that abuse IS happening inside “Christian” marriages by talking about it then victims can begin to heal from the shame and abusers may choose to repent.

I can’t describe the feeling of wanting everyone to know the truth yet at the same time not wanting anyone to know.

It’s a complex quandary that each victim faces. And it’s their story. It’s the victim’s decision to tell and if it is safe to tell.

Either way, we can still begin to talk against…

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Courtroom Battle

Day 2-Domestic Violence Awareness Month #pray4dvfreedom

Proverbs 29:9 says “If a wise person goes to court with a fool, the fool rages and scoffs, and there is no peace.” (NIV)

All I can say is, this is so true.

Being in court with my abuser was one of the hardest things I ever had to do.

But I told the truth.

There was no peace in the courtroom that day. It was a no-win scenario.

Only precious freedom that immediately followed.

#pray4dvfreedom #journeywithbri

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