When I Am Quiet

Day 21 -Domestic Violence Awareness Month #pray4dvfreedom

Often when I’m quiet on social media or my blog, it’s because I’ve withdrawn to pray.

In those times I am currently growing so much that I do not have the words yet to communicate with you.

Every time this has happened since I launched my blog www.journeywithbri.com I am even more overwhelmed by people in my life reaching out to me through texts, voicemails, emails and social media. I feel so loved in those moments that all I can do is cry.

I literally cannot stop the tears sliding down my cheeks. Neither do…

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Is A Target On Your Back?

Day 14 -Domestic Violence Awareness Month #pray4dvfreedom

Abusers learn how to work the system. They play on people’s emotions to get what they want.

I’ve met many Christians who have big hearts wanting to help other people. Abusers see that as well. It’s like, nice people have a big red target on their back invisible to others but with a neon light to abusers. And abusers use it to their advantage.

So, let’s be wise with people (potential abusers) who give you that, “something’s not quite right here…” feeling so that we’re not being used for their deceptive purposes.




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It Takes A Village

Day 13 -Domestic Violence Awareness Month #pray4dvfreedom

Have you ever heard that it takes a village to raise a child? It also takes a village to raise a victim into a survivor.

Let’s be the Christian community surrounding victims with God’s love instead of our judgement of their lives.



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Are You Annoyed?

Day 11 -Domestic Violence Awareness Month #pray4dvfreedom

I had a friend comment last week, “I know abuse is awful but it seems like I keep hearing about it everywhere I go.”

I’m not sure she appreciated my response.

Which was a smile.

I bet you’re wondering, how on earth can I smile about abuse?

Because it’s being talked about.

If the secret of abuse happening is removed by talking about it then, the truth of the detestable violence will be brought out into the light. Victims can begin to heal and the abuser may choose to repent.

Just like the Bible says in Mark 4:22, “For…

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What Is Love?

Day 10-Domestic Violence Awareness Month #pray4dvfreedom

Love is a treasure.

I’ve been studying how the Bible describes love for almost a year. I’ve been renewing my mind of truth and of what love actually is.

The first place I went in my search was to the well known love chapter in 1 Corinthians 13:4-8, “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth….

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How Does Abuse Start?

Day 9-Domestic Violence Awareness Month #pray4dvfreedom

“I love you.”

Three powerful words.

Especially when they come from someone you’re dating. Those words are special and hold a beautiful promise. But what if, the individual you’re dating, says those three words while making you feel unsure of yourself? What if you find that you’re second guessing yourself?

The more you try to explain how you’re feeling to your significant other the less you feel understood. And the more muddy things appear to you.

Somehow, each conversation always ends up with your significant other’s feelings being hurt.

As you’re apologizing, again, you’re wondering how did this happen?…

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Have You Ever Given Marriage Advice?

Day 6-Domestic Violence Awareness Month #pray4dvfreedom

Have you ever given advice to a couple struggling in their marriage? Did it seem to make things worse instead of better?

Often church leaders attempt to help marriages in trouble by giving advice or offering some free “counseling”.

However, what the church leaders and Christians don’t realize is that their involvement increases the shame that victims live with, enables the abuser to continue violence behind closed doors and endanger lives.

If there is even a hint of abuse, affair or addiction please, please refer the couple to individual professional counseling.

It is critically important.

You can help save a life.





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